If you didn’t hear it with your own ears or see it with your own eyes, don’t invent it with your small mind or share it with your big mouth.
We shouldn’t care what others do or say behind our back, however we sometimes do, don’t we?
When you find out someone is talking about you or putting you down without you even knowing it is a horrible feeling, isn’t it? Unfortunately those kind of people may be friends, colleagues, or someone you don’t even know. Since negativity attracts negativity the shit they’re talking about probably gets passed on and you end up finding out about it from someone who was honest enough to come forward and tell you to your face.
In these kind of situations it may be hard to not retaliate. Until you have some kind of proof of what people are saying, it is merely gossip. So remain focused on being the best kind of person you can be. It sounds cliché but take the higher road.
You will wonder if the person that did decide to tell you was also the one partaking in these conversations too and the only reason for them to tell you was to clear their own conscience. Eminem describes it perfectly in his song If I Had: “Friends are people that you think are your friends, but they really your enemies, with secret identities and disguises, to hide they true colors.”
Everybody has their own secrets. Choose your friends wisely. Choose what you share with them. If they share things with you, then keep it that way by not passing it on, or gossiping. Be positive. Stay a true friend and don’t talk behind their back. Be honest with yourself and keep your mind healthy. As much as negativity attracts negativity the same can be said for positivity, too.
In the end people will gossip and talk behind your back. It is however completely up to you how you react in the situation. Try and react in a positive way.